Category: Show Up or Shut Up

Posted in BadAssery, Show Up or Shut Up

Hitting Capacity

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I enjoy being organized.  You have to be if you are someone like me.

Sounds completely crazy coming from a free spirit, but it’s the truth.

It is the only way you can possibly hope to be productive and effective when you do so many different allthethings. You prioritize.  You streamline.  You systemize processes and not have to re-think any of the tasks that need to be done consistently, every time you do them.

BUT……no matter how well you plan and structure……you will finally hit capacity.

What do you do when that happens? Shut it all down? Run away?

We’ve all been tempted, but this seems extreme to me.

Most of the time, the first response I hear is: “Maybe you are doing too many things.  You should quit some.”

The problem with that for me is that I love being part of something bigger than myself.  There are a lot of those!  I never know right away how much time and energy I will need to devote to a new endeavor, so I just jump in with both feet and as much enthusiasm as I can bring!

Not only that, but I firmly believe that once you have committed to something, and there are people counting on you to show up and do your part…..you don’t just quit because you get tired. Especially when those things are successful!

I also love being the architect of my own life. Ok, who am I kidding here? I also prefer to be the contractor, the foreman, the builder, the interior designer, the stager, the quality inspector……

Sound familiar?

My ‘busy’ is not a euphemism for spinning wheels, we ARE building some pretty successful things with it!

So I prefer to just raise my capacity and keep right on doing them.

There is no way I am the only one who decided they just needed to raise their capacity, too……and if you are one of those people, I would love to hear from YOU!

Did you decide to strengthen your leadership skills, start delegating more, outsource tasks altogether, find better resources?  What can you not run your business or business(es) without?

Posted in BadAssery, Random Bumble, Show Up or Shut Up, The REAL

Worked Out Of A Job

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Empowerer. Empower-er. EMPOWERER.

Auto-correct keeps flagging this one, and I don’t know why! It may not be a recognized word in our dictionary, but it absolutely should be!

I am not a rescuer. I am not a fixer. I am not even a very good commiserator. My truest nature is that of an empowerer.

I discuss this in another post, you can catch up on that HERE.

I have also been called a bad influence, but that can’t be right.

Expecting myself AND others to bring their best game on and really show up is what makes that happen. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I know there are times when this seems difficult. I also know that one of the greatest gifts we can give is to help create those “lightbulb moments” for others, so that is what I do whenever I can.

Then I stay around long enough to help devise the ‘how to’ strategies, help develop the methods to accomplish them, and encourage the entire time.

Usually. this also means that I am worked out of a job.

We raised an independent kid who didn’t NEED anybody (including us!). My mom-heart hurt sometimes over that, because there were moments I REALLY missed the little boy who would launch himself at me for a big squeeze. It was worth it though, as raising a kid who will always NEED you (just to satisfy your own co-dependent baggage) WILL hurt the kid eventually. So I did the right thing by him and raised the kind of man he wanted to be. The one the world needed…..not the one I needed for my own selfishness.

  • “Ewww…..Mom! Not in public!”
  • But he WOULD kiss himself in public. Go figure!

I also teach clients, knowing this may lead to them doing my job themselves and not needing to pay me to do it anymore. That is okay. There is plenty of work to do and not enough qualified people to do it as it is, which is why I am also happy training other professionals (and learning from them!).

The nonprofit organization I founded, The FLIP Group, Inc. exists solely to support-equip-empower young adults – but I am currently spending most of my time and energy on a specific few that work for/with me. Knowing that I am empowering them to be their best selves and teaching them everything I can, mentoring them instead of “bossing” them, means that I WILL lose them. They WILL leave me for other opportunities. I WILL be okay about that too, when that time comes, because sometimes working yourself out of a job means you did your job.

Please don’t be afraid to do your job when you have to, even when that job is hard.

QUESTION(s): How can I empower YOU or YOUR BUSINESS right now?

Posted in BadAssery, My Teacher Voice, Show Up or Shut Up

What Were We Thinking?!

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So I was asked to do a thing. Then I agreed to do said thing. Then I had a full-on, proper flipout.

Yes, I just saw you shiver with antici……pation.

I started feeling something totally foreign to me (I have since been told the word for that is nervous), so then I got all question-ey:

  • Why did I agree to this?
  • Whose bright idea was this, again?
  • Who talked me into this?
  • Can I really do it?
  • Should I get out of it? What if I bomb?
  • What if famine and pestilence ensue?
  • What were we thinking?

Then I remembered who I was and promptly got right over it.

  • Nope, #notevensorry about it.
  • Part of the problem was that I STILL don’t have this shirt! Even I need the reminder once in awhile.

You see, I invented the term #badassery.

There are things I know nothing about and things I know just enough about to stay far away from and leave to their experts and things I really want to be good at (but just aren’t) and things I do well enough when I have to do them….

THEN there are things I am one of the best there is at doing and THIS IS ONE of those.

So at least there is that.

After providing support as the answer-master for the BIG BOSS’ webinars, we decided it was time for me to host my own! That may not be a big deal to most, but I take everything I do seriously and put in the work to do a GREAT job. So this is kind of a big deal!

I mean, I DO train/teach all of the time, and I definitely know the material. I guess if HE says I can do it, and is willing to risk his professional reputation by personally endorsing me, I have nothing to worry about, right?! At least, that’s my story now and I’m sticking to it.……….

So:

  • If we’re already friends, sign up and see if I’m as good as I try to be (and help me be better, if I’m not)!
  • If we’re not friends YET, we probably will be soon anyway and you should take advantage of a FREE session while they’re still free (b/c its my first time)!
  • If we’re just NOT FRIENDS ON PURPOSE, you’re probably a terrible person anyway who might enjoy the opportunity to MAYBE see me go down in flames after all of the bragging I do.

You know, one of those.

Whatever our situation, you can sign up for one of my current webinars below:

January 21, 2020 – Desktop / January 22, 2020 – Online

Oh, by the way…did I already mention that THIS boss is THIS industry’s heavy-hitter? MAN. Wish me luck!

Posted in Framily, Grief, Show Up or Shut Up

Sharing Is Caring, Even Grief

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A recent post mentioned a very real belief I have, that sharing is caring.

Especially when you have something I don’t that I want some of.

Like that girl does.

My #framily and I say that phrase fairly often to each other, and of course we think we are being funny, but it is SO true when you really think about it. I mean, who wouldn’t want it all for themselves? Good is good so more must be even better, right? Sharing something you REALLY want all for yourself should count double……and so should taking a share of things you reallyreallyreally do NOT want.

Like grief.

Grief feels heavier than joyful does.  It definitely lasts longer than the sympathy does.  It makes you bitter OR better.  It hurts you AND numbs you.  Some people hide it while some wear it constantly. It makes some people afraid of everything but it made me (even more so) afraid of NOTHING. The details are different, but the human experience is the same, no matter what grief looks like on us. It is also best friends with loss – no matter if that loss is of friend, parent, or child.

I have been asked repeatedly to share my story on that, but I am still working through it. So not today.

Instead, I want to share (with permission) a friend’s experience with grief…..and I know that probably seems like I am letting myself off the hook, but I promise you I am not.

Our human experience is eerily similar, even though the details are very different. Sharing her ‘walk’ with you is not exactly the same as sharing mine – but just by paying attention, I am also sharing her grief with her, hoping it makes the load a little lighter while we walk, even if she can’t see me over here helping carry it right now.

With someone you care about, help them carry their grief once in awhile. Sometimes its the only thing they need…..but I think any way we can show up for each other still counts.

It All Counts.

Thank you, Emme Chey, for sharing with us. You’re one of my heroes.