Tag: Show Up or Shut Up

Posted in BadAssery, The REAL

My WHY (To Blog)

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If you are interested in any more explanation on why I started this than the image + caption below, you can catch up on my first post on it (that includes some good links on stuff to watch) HERE: My WHY (A Blog About The Blog)

Because I have NEVER liked being told what to do

(or think, or say, or pretty much anything else)

and never will.

Spoiler Alert: I still don’t.

THIS blog site opened in 2019.

While many people are using countless platforms to communicate and a good old-fashioned blog can seem like something ‘old people’ do, I’ll tell you my main reason for choosing it (aside from the fact that I AM old in a lot of ways!), which is this:

Everything here belongs to me and I own it forever and it’s ALL MINE.

Just like #SammyHagar says.

And we should definitely listen to him because he clearly knows things.

Sammy has been having a good time.

Let’s be more like Sammy 😆

As a matter of fact, let’s listen to him right now. Then come back to me.

You’re welcome.

Ahhhh…wasn’t that fun?

I was talking to a young-ish (early 30s) adult the other day and he came up. Can you believe she didn’t know who that was? She clearly wasn’t raised right, poor thing. That’s what made me think of this now. Welcome to my brain.

Back to the point.

I have social media. I understand the purpose and agree that it can be useful. I mean, I CAN be found HERE:

What I don’t agree with is how we are spied on. It’s getting even creepier, too.

If you really want to get in the know, or at least more informed, watch “The Creepy Line” or “The Great Hack” (both documentaries, both on Netflix), or “Shadow Government” on Prime (this one was released in 2008, so you can only imagine the advances since then but it was infuriating enough).

I also don’t agree with the control the platforms have over what we see and how and when we see it, and the constant algorithm changes. Since most are “free” (although there is no such thing), we have to agree that they can do whatever they choose however they choose to do it with our information.

I don’t know about you, but I prefer to make my own choices for myself, thankyouverymuch.

And now there is SnapChat and TikTok and specific sites just for rants, just for pics, just for promoting your business. They’ll keep changing and I’m exhausted.

Remember Classmates and MyLife and MySpace? Neither do most other people. Those are where social media started, and NO ONE uses them now.

So a blog could be my main hub from here on out. Things can always be shared from it to other sites, but what is mine stays MINE. I paid for it and it is all copyrighted and there is no worry about algorithms and changing platforms and readers can see whatever they want, whenever they want.

If YOU want to stay updated, follow the blog.

If YOU want to share here, be a guest blogger.

You know I live to serve and just want you to be happy.

Question: What do you use to communicate with people and why?

Posted in BadAssery, Random Bumble, Show Up or Shut Up, The REAL

Worked Out Of A Job

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Empowerer. Empower-er. EMPOWERER.

Auto-correct keeps flagging this one, and I don’t know why! It may not be a recognized word in our dictionary, but it absolutely should be!

I am not a rescuer. I am not a fixer. I am not even a very good commiserator. My truest nature is that of an empowerer.

I discuss this in another post, you can catch up on that HERE.

I have also been called a bad influence, but that can’t be right.

Expecting myself AND others to bring their best game on and really show up is what makes that happen. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I know there are times when this seems difficult. I also know that one of the greatest gifts we can give is to help create those “lightbulb moments” for others, so that is what I do whenever I can.

Then I stay around long enough to help devise the ‘how to’ strategies, help develop the methods to accomplish them, and encourage the entire time.

Usually. this also means that I am worked out of a job.

We raised an independent kid who didn’t NEED anybody (including us!). My mom-heart hurt sometimes over that, because there were moments I REALLY missed the little boy who would launch himself at me for a big squeeze. It was worth it though, as raising a kid who will always NEED you (just to satisfy your own co-dependent baggage) WILL hurt the kid eventually. So I did the right thing by him and raised the kind of man he wanted to be. The one the world needed…..not the one I needed for my own selfishness.

  • “Ewww…..Mom! Not in public!”
  • But he WOULD kiss himself in public. Go figure!

I also teach clients, knowing this may lead to them doing my job themselves and not needing to pay me to do it anymore. That is okay. There is plenty of work to do and not enough qualified people to do it as it is, which is why I am also happy training other professionals (and learning from them!).

The nonprofit organization I founded, The FLIP Group, Inc. exists solely to support-equip-empower young adults – but I am currently spending most of my time and energy on a specific few that work for/with me. Knowing that I am empowering them to be their best selves and teaching them everything I can, mentoring them instead of “bossing” them, means that I WILL lose them. They WILL leave me for other opportunities. I WILL be okay about that too, when that time comes, because sometimes working yourself out of a job means you did your job.

Please don’t be afraid to do your job when you have to, even when that job is hard.

QUESTION(s): How can I empower YOU or YOUR BUSINESS right now?

Posted in Framily, Grief, Show Up or Shut Up

Sharing Is Caring, Even Grief

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A recent post mentioned a very real belief I have, that sharing is caring.

Especially when you have something I don’t that I want some of.

Like that girl does.

My #framily and I say that phrase fairly often to each other, and of course we think we are being funny, but it is SO true when you really think about it. I mean, who wouldn’t want it all for themselves? Good is good so more must be even better, right? Sharing something you REALLY want all for yourself should count double……and so should taking a share of things you reallyreallyreally do NOT want.

Like grief.

Grief feels heavier than joyful does.  It definitely lasts longer than the sympathy does.  It makes you bitter OR better.  It hurts you AND numbs you.  Some people hide it while some wear it constantly. It makes some people afraid of everything but it made me (even more so) afraid of NOTHING. The details are different, but the human experience is the same, no matter what grief looks like on us. It is also best friends with loss – no matter if that loss is of friend, parent, or child.

I have been asked repeatedly to share my story on that, but I am still working through it. So not today.

Instead, I want to share (with permission) a friend’s experience with grief…..and I know that probably seems like I am letting myself off the hook, but I promise you I am not.

Our human experience is eerily similar, even though the details are very different. Sharing her ‘walk’ with you is not exactly the same as sharing mine – but just by paying attention, I am also sharing her grief with her, hoping it makes the load a little lighter while we walk, even if she can’t see me over here helping carry it right now.

With someone you care about, help them carry their grief once in awhile. Sometimes its the only thing they need…..but I think any way we can show up for each other still counts.

It All Counts.

Thank you, Emme Chey, for sharing with us. You’re one of my heroes.